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10 Gift Ideas When Living with Alzheimer’s


Memory problems bring surprises. It’s nice when that surprise is a gift.

People with Alzheimer’s may lose many abilities, but they rarely lose the capacity for feeling. Feelings still matter.
What once were nice presents may no longer be right; what wasn’t much of a gift may have become a great one. See these suggestions.

We have all dreamed about gifts for the holidays when we were small, waited with excitement as we got older, wondering what surprise we would find when we opened the fancy wrapper – even if it was tin foil, wrapped by a child.

Gifts for people with Alzheimer’s are a little bit like that. Whether your Alzheimer’s loved one understands the gift, or even particularly cares about it in the later stages, is not really what counts.

It’s the feelings that matter. Your loved one with Alzheimer’s disease can sense your feelings and responds in kind.

Gift Ideas

So really, in a very deep sense, the gift you give to someone with Alzheimer’s is one that you give to yourself as well. A night out at a quiet restaurant, tickets for a happy movie, and at the earliest stages,

even a durable chess set are all great gifts.

Simple games can make engaging gifts, including back-to-basics like:

Electronics are sure-fire gifts. Easy-to-read

calendar clocks

look good and help orient people with dementia.

Therapeutic lamps

liven up living spaces, reduce agitation and boost mood.

A printer to which you can email photos

or an
digital-photo-frame to which family can email smartphone photos as fast as they can take them

makes sharing pictures easier than ever. These easy technologies take your pictures all day long and keep them on display. Generations stay together, while reducing distance and loneliness.

Amplified photo phones
keep the conversations going.
Wireless key finders also help locate phones or pets and even remote controls

, while special
elderly automobile cushions

help loved ones get around.

CDs or DVDs of your loved one’s favorite music are a sure-fire gift that is certain to raise spirits in almost any stage of Alzheimer’s. Whether it’s

classical music

or whatever they enjoyed most when they were young, research has shown music tobe one of the best, simplest and most effective therapies for people with dementia.

Movies or

Broadway musicals

are wonderful, even in the middle to late stages.

Easy-to-put-on clothing


snuggly stadium blankets

or comforters

can provide ease and a sense of well-being. Special foods,

all kinds of entertaining books for seniors
, as well as books rich in photos of nature or senior coloring books

(children and grand vistas are great!) and yes,

soft dolls and stuffed toys

provide a reassuring feeling, too. Remember, the later the stage, the younger the functional and emotional level.

Getting Together

Preparing for family gatherings, parties and other events can be extremely stressful and expectations often need to be adjusted to meet the demands of the new reality each stage brings.

In the early stages, a person with Alzheimer’s disease can still help with preparing food (no fire, no knives), hanging baubles (try to avoid glass) and wrapping presents (avoid the scissors). It is very reassuring to have his or her favorite music on while doing this, or sing some of the “old songs” together.

As for the main event, loud noises, sudden movements, blinking lights and chaos are all major no-no’s that can confuse or even frighten someone with Alzheimer’s disease, even in the early stages, so it’s important to keep things light and easy. Safety and serenity are key.

Gifts for Caregivers

It’s always great to receive a gift, but for caregivers the experience is even more precious, since the giving is often going the other way, all day, every day.

Think "Afternoon at the Spa",
aromatherapy shower gel

Gift Certificates for a good restaurant or a sweet dessert,

perhaps a soothing foot spa,
a “Respite Day” or simply a “Weekend Off”. (This is where friends or family become essential, so that someone else can do the caregiving for a while.) Free gifts often mean the most – a day of help with housework, a weekly cleaning assist, someone else to do the cooking – anything to lighten the load.

If your Alzheimer’s loved one is in an Assisted Living Facility (ALF) or Nursing Home (NH), it is equally important to remember the staff, from a practical as well as a ‘basic decency’ standpoint.

Who knows better how hard it is to care for a person with Alzheimer’s disease, than one who has had to do it?

It is this sense of gratitude and appreciation that is so important to thank the staff for caring, for the compassion and for having the strength to do what must be done in caring for a person with Alzheimer’s disease. Also, it is the staff that cares for the residents, so giving back what they give daily to your loved one isn’t just decent, it’s smart. Staff people remember those who remember them.

It is impossible to give 10-plus gifts to cover all the staff members, but it is possible to bake cookies, buy a cake, a few pizzas,
a box of chocolate

– anything that will show your appreciation for all their hard work. It doesn’t have to be expensive; it just has to be there.

Living in the Moment

The holidays are bittersweet when a family is struck by Alzheimer’s disease. It’s a time for caring and sharing and reflecting on the year that’s past and the year to come – and with Alzheimer’s, the future is tough to face. But there are some bright spots.

People with Alzheimer’s, more than anyone else know how to live in the moment. For just an hour, an afternoon or day, joining with your loved one in that moment can make for a very special holiday.


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Phil Lanning
Phil Lanning
December 10, 2015 6:10 pm

Small moments sprinkled throughout the day are most precious. Sometimes, a freshly opened jar of jelly sparks a moment. Buttered toast and jelly – that is life at its peak some days.!

November 28, 2016 5:21 pm

read some crap but this item hits it from a real alzheimers carer who hates it.where does money come from to pay for expensive gifts.aahh america,skint here in england.

December 1, 2016 2:19 am

A truly personal hand written Thank You note often means more than a gift. I have told others 'thanks for everything you are doing' and occasionally mentioned I am praying for them. This doesn't cost anything and gratitude makes both the giver and receiver feel special. Hope this helps.

January 16, 2020 2:56 am

I don't know if any article or comment has been made about this but I found that the perfect give idea was actually from the Robotshop. They make cats and dogs etc…. and I'm telling you that it is the best gift I have ever given. Here is the link…

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